Azuka was tired of living from paycheck to paycheck and trapped in his own miserable life. He grew tired of the friends he had and the company he kept because none of them were better than he was. They all looked up to Azuka for one thing or the other. Although Azuka knew he was a nobody in the outer society and can’t boast of any significant possession of his own, he kept it all to himself and celebrated his ephemeral moment of mediocrity. As days goes by, he began to search for ways to enhance himself and decided to sought out new friends. He targeted big events, conventions and conferences to connect with people who had made something of themselves. He completely replaced the pack of people in his network and decided to make a new list of friends. The list was simply divided into two columns: One for those who would improve his life and the other for those who would drag him down. He spent more time as possible with folks who could improve his life, and kept away from his old friends as much as possible. It wasn’t up to 2 years, Azuka’s life became a success story.
In case you don’t know yet, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. Frankly, you need to modify your friends’ list in order to move forward in life. You need to surround yourself with people who would inspire you to live better. What makes the most successful amongst us today is nothing other than the company they keep. If you make friends with healthy people, you will in turn become healthy. Keep company with wise people, you shall become wise thyself. Associate with losers, you will be dragged down along with them. It is as simple as it works.
Brenton Weyi in his inspiring article, “Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind”, shares these three powerful insights on the kind of folks to stay around with.
If you want to be truly successful, you must have these 3 essential people in your life at all times:
- A person who is older and more successful than you to learn from
What this person does is simple: he or she gives you counsel and positions you for success. This can be a mentor or role model…someone you look up to. No matter where you want to be, someone else have got the experience you need to get there or had been there and knows all about the game. To avoid wasting resources and time in getting results, it is much wiser to learn how to tie the rope from the masters. This could be an older or perhaps a younger lad with the experience. It saves time and truncates unwarranted mistakes in my past lingo. You deceive yourself if you claim there is nobody to look up to in your chosen hustle. Arguably, success is the function of humility. The ability to humble ourselves and learn from those that are ahead of us. We must learn from people to grow.
- A person who is equal to you to exchange ideas with
Look out for folks that challenge your intelligence and make you feel as if you still have a lot to learn. Of course everyone does. But go for peers whose passion is as same as yours, to provide an exchange of inspiration and ideas. You may never figure it all out alone. At some point you may need some helping hands to sharpen that vision of yours. Don’t engage anybody. Find those that you share the same goals with, people who seem to go the same direction with you. However, be careful not to engage people who think they know you too much and want to tell you everything they have not achieved. Look out for people with through life’s story, those whose storyline you can tap great wisdom and inspiration from. Remember, do not engage all your friends, especially those who love you and know you too well, they might do the opposite of what you need: weaken your confidence. Find fellow millennials who are connected, open to change and very passionate about your area of interest, connect them and boast each other’s enthusiasm in order to succeed together.
- A person below you to coach and keep you energized
This is the part most successful businesspeople miss out. The success of generational leadership is the ability to pass on the baton. The ability to incubate in another, the spirit in you. Being an inspirational leader is not loving your followers (every leader does that) and neither is it to devote your entirety for them. It is far beyond that. Seek amongst your followers new kings of the game. Look out for them. Embrace them. Humble them with your true life’s story; as some leaders avoid saying it all in the public for plausible reasons. Make them believe they can be greater than you. Give them chance to exhibit their naivety in accordance to your rules. Never you laugh at them or reach your decibel level when correcting them. Correct them in love as the Bible teaches us. Learn from them. Teach them true success from inside out. Lead them and empower them to succeed.
The quality of every great and successful leader is in the humility to challenge themselves with people that will refine their talents. Success is usually the function of the network of driven peers who provide both inspiration and healthy motivation. Your life reflects the shadow of people in your circle.
Upgrade your mindset today and modify your close associates. Draft a make and break list of people you need in your life and those you don’t need. Always challenge yourself with exceptional people that will lift you higher. Surround yourself with down-to-earth folks who will inspire your work in progress and continue to turn on your audacity. Find young lads to train and bring up in thy ways. Never join an easy crowd of losers that will drag you down. Go where things happen, where stakes and demands to achieve are too high. Make it happen!